How To How Avoid Disappointments At Your Wedding
Good day Kamdolls, how did your weekend go?
Hope you had lots of fun. I was supposed to……but!!! Let’s just say it wasn’t what I’d hoped. I had a wedding to attend on Saturday and weddings are supposed to be supper fun yea? Well, this one was a disappointment. The hall was super beautiful and all and the buffet was sumptuous.
Oh, and the DJ did a great job too. But that’s all I can say about the wedding. It was a total mess. There was no one to coordinate things, the makeup artist called on Friday night to cancel, the groom’s friends who were to provide vehicles to convey the bride and bridesmaids to the venue also flopped.
The bridesmaids and the bride’s mum had to get a taxi to take them to the venue….. I could go on and on and list a number of other things that went wrong that day but that’s not why I’m here. I’m here to ensure that what happened at that wedding doesn’t happen to any of us. Are you planning a wedding? Are you going to be a bridesmaid at any wedding? Here are tips to planning a great wedding……
#1. Make a Wedding Shopping List
To further help you avoid the usual impulsive overspending and stick to your budget, start off by making a list of things to buy, rent or hire for the wedding.
#2. Make a Wedding To-Do List and Timeline
Make a checklist of tasks to do before the wedding date, to guide you on what to do and when to do them. Timelines for activities in your wedding checklist should be scheduled before your wedding date, starting from after your engagement.
#3. Ask For Help
No matter how small a wedding will be, it would still involve lots of details and logistics, and you can’t do everything alone. You’ll need lots of help to organize your wedding. You can either pay for hired helps or get it for free by asking friends and family.
If you have extra cash or don’t have either time or close friends and family available to help you with implementing the wedding plans, hire a professional wedding planner to help you achieve and implement a tight plan – wedding planners usually have cheaper packages when they are hired to coordinate just the week of your wedding (that’s if you can’t afford the full package, ask them to help you coordinate the wedding week or day).
But, if you don’t have a wedding planner budget, start early and put together your own wedding planning team – ask friends to gift you helping hands instead of wedding gifts. Ask for help from your bridesmaids, groomsmen, resourceful family and friends. Good friends and family are always there and waiting to help, and would save you a lot of money if you use them.
Other areas you can get help, during wedding planning include:
The wedding catering – ask your mom, her friends, your aunts, your village women’s meeting. Instead of paying wedding vendors for the reception catering, ask talented friends and family members to gift you their time and service for your wedding. Ask them to help you cook the wedding food, make the small chops, wedding cake, chin-chin and so on.
The wedding cake and snacks – ask your friends and close family members
Venue decoration – ask your church members or friends
Recommendation to good vendors, as well as putting in a word for them to give you discounts
NOTE: If your wedding reception venue would be in a hotel, know that most hotels require you to purchase all your food and drinks from them. So, be sure to ask them for the quotes on how much the catering would cost for the number of guests you expect.
#4. Keep Your Attendants (Bridesmaids and Groomsmen) Few.
Since you’re talking of a small wedding with a few guests, it’s appropriate to have a few bridesmaids and groomsmen. Cut down the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen – may be, just have a best-man and chief bridesmaid, and maybe one flower girl. Note that it’s the norm for bridesmaids and groomsmen to buy their own outfits, although the couple get to choose the colours and styles/designs. However, be attentive to their comfort – it may be best to let them choose the dress styles in the colour you want. And don’t ask them to buy a really expensive outfit just because you’re the bride.
#5. Keep the Meal Style Simple
When deciding whether to serve a buffet or sit-down meal, consider the size of your wedding venue. If the venue is small, don’t do buffet, as there may not be enough space to set the buffet stations. Be sure to have multiple serving stations if you want to serve buffet-style meals, so that you don’t have your guests queuing for food for too long – and getting annoyed.
If you want to serve sit-down meals, be sure to have adequate number of servers, so that the item #7 (menu time) does not go on forever. If you don’t have plenty friends and family to serve food to guests, instead of paying servers, you may be able to save a little money by having a buffet instead of a sit down, as buffet style meals use less servers and so will cost less.
#6. Limit (Food) Menu Options
Remember when deciding on what food to have at your wedding that you consider the prices. Keep the menu options small and limit the variety of food served – only serve the essential party food that most Nigerians love. Instead of serving a six course meal, consider only three. When hiring a caterer, confirm what will be served for the price they’re quoting. Also, confirm if the caterer will be giving you servers for a sit-down meal or behind the buffet stations.
Know that the more options you want for your wedding catering, the more the caterers will charge you per plate of food. And if you want to keep your wedding catering budget down, stay away from offering your guests a wide variety – after all, those sort of lavish meals usually get wasted. Simply serve the usual popular Nigerian party food that everyone likes.
#7. Get Serious with the Wedding Planning
A small wedding does not mean that its planning will be easier; besides, it’s easier for guests to notice flaws when a wedding has few guests. No matter how small a wedding will be, it would still involve lots of details and logistics. Therefore, you need to pay attention to the details.
Don’t go about guessing what needs to be done each day you wake up – that’s the beginning of stress. Instead, start off by making a list of everything and every task that needs to be completed before your wedding day. And start this process as early as possible, so that you’ll avoid last minute stress, while taking advantage of sales discounts you find.
#8. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Once you start wedding planning early, have it at the back of your mind that you’re going to have the most beautiful wedding, because you’re doing everything you can. Also assume that something small may go wrong (not as planned) at the last minute, but have the mindset that it wouldn’t reduce the beauty of your wedding. Besides, one of your bridesmaids/ groomsmen/ family member would take care of it. So, there’s nothing for you to worry or stress about – isn’t that why you’re spending time and effort to plan the wedding in advance?
Guess what? Something usually goes wrong in the most amazing weddings we see on TV but no one notices. Likewise, no one will notice if any small issue occurs in the midst of the elegance of your wedding day – keep telling yourself that they’ll only see the beautiful things, while you’ll be busy enjoying yourself that day.
Low-key weddings can be elegant if you take measures to keep your options simple and small – you would save costs and still impress your guests.
That’s it for my tips on how to avoid disappointment weddings. Do you have more tips you’d like to share? Drop your own low key wedding ideas with us in the comments below, or tell us which of the 8 tips above you like best?
Source: Naija Glam Weddings