At some point in your life, you will feel the need branch out from your core group of friends. You branching out doesn’t mean that they haven’t been there for you through thick and thin. It is just normal to crave for new friends! Here are 7 habits you must have if you want to make friends easily.
One of the reasons why you might need to make a new friend is because your other friends might not be into some of the things you love. For example, if you move into a new place/school/area, you will need to expand your social circle a little bit. To be very honest, making friends as an adult can be very hard.
It is hard because we are at the point in our lives that we need to focus on our career and business. So you find most people putting more effort into being productive. These 7 habits have worked for me in the past and it would definitely work for you.
How To Make Friends Easily
1. Reach Out To People: I really don’t know why you keep waiting for people to reach out to you. If everybody behaves that way, we wouldn’t have friends. I think you need to push yourself a little bit by making the first move. Remember “reaching out to others is a necessary first step to making new friends” Dr. William Chopik.
2. Stay Off Your Phones In Public: I have noticed that people are addicted to their phones. You are either on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Tinder or any other social media platform. If only you could put your phone away and talk to the person beside you, this world would be a better place.
3. Be Positive Minded: I believe that this is a role the two parties need to play. For example, if you walk up to someone and all you get is negative vibes, you would just bid them farewell and mind your business. But when the vibe you get in return is positive, you push to establish a relationship with the person.
4. Be A Good Listener: People don’t always like people who don’t listen to them. They want people that would allow them express themselves in whatever way they can. The least thing you can do to your friend is listen to him/her. “Everyone wants to be heard, to share their intimate information and to feel understood by another,” Dr. Gail Saltz.
5. Be Familiar with people: You live with people so behave like one. If you appear friendly, there is a higher probability the friendship would work out. Wear a smile, when you walk up to say hello to someone. Your magic words are also very important. It shows that you have manners!
6. Try New Things: This shows that you are confident and curious about things which is appealing. Do not be boring. Stop using the same methods on different people.
7. Smile: Sia said “You are not fully dressed without a smile” and I believe her! A smile is contagious and it makes the person warm up towards you.
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